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I attended the sweetest wedding this past weekend. It was the second marriage for this couple and their anticipation and excitement was crystal clear in their tears at the altar, the songs they chose to tell their love story and in their exuberance afterwards. The wedding could be described as beautiful~ from the simple elegance of the invitations and programs to the message of faith and family in the vows. Jim was so handsome and Ginny~ GORGEOUS! She carried white roses and lilacs. (yes, lilacs).
As guests, we were also encouraged to sing along to one of their favorite songs during the ceremony. It was touching and reminded me of what I wanted to do at my own wedding. I was taking guitar lessons during our engagement and wanted to surprise my fiance' by playing and singing at the reception. Well, I chickened out because I thought I would embarrass myself. I completely regret not playing. Even though I probably wouldn’t have played well, it would have been a true expression of my love.
Do you have the desire to write your own wedding vows, use music to tell your love story or play a song for your fiancé(e)? Don’t let fear of embarrassment keep you from expressing your love and deep devotion! Writing your own vows is an endeavor you take together and will require thought on both your parts with regard to: style, message, whether or not you write them together, how long it should be, etc.
Suggestions To Writing Your Own Vows:
- Talk with your minister or officiate as he/she will inform you of any policies to writing your own vows. He/she will also be able to offer you guidance and direction in your writing.
- Decide what you want to write about: your love story, your pledge to one another, an underlying theme that defines your relationship, all of the above, etc.
- Decide what your voice or tone will be: humorous, romantic, etc.
- Keep a journal to record what makes your relationship special.
- Take your time writing your vows. Do not rush through them.
- Incorporate humor.
- Be true to yourselves.
- PRACTICE! PRACTICE! PRACTICE until you are confident. It should flow naturally.
Writing your own vows is FOREVER ROMANTIC~ written on your hearts as well as the hearts of your guests!
I'd love to hear your thoughts!
